Ways to control your anger in relationship.

 

Anger is normal, but it’s very important to deal with it in a positive and in a mature way. Uncontrolled anger can take a toll on both your health and your relationships.
You can deal with anger by understanding what your body is telling you and quickly taking steps to calm yourself down.

I have met people who say it’s difficult to know when the anger starts. It’s easy to know. You are definitely angry when your heart beats faster and you breathe more quickly. You might also notice other signs, such as tension in your shoulders or clenching your fists.

Below are ways to deal with anger.

Think before you speak

In the heat of the moment, it’s easy to say things you’ll later regret. Take a few moments to collect your thoughts before saying anything — and allow others involved in the situation to do the same. Once you can recognize that you’re getting angry, and can calm yourself down, you can start looking at ways to control your anger more generally.
Practice relaxation skills

When your temper flares, put relaxation skills to work. Practice deep-breathing exercises, imagine a relaxing scene, or repeat a calming word or phrase, such as, “Take it easy.” You might also listen to music or do whatever it takes to encourage relaxation.

Use humor to release tension

Lightening up can help diffuse tension. Use humor to help you face what’s making you angry and, possibly, any unrealistic expectations you have for how things should go. Avoid sarcasm, though  it can hurt feelings and make things worse.

Get some exercise

Physical activity can help reduce stress that can cause you to become angry. If you feel your anger is escalating, go for a brisk walk or run, or spend some time doing other enjoyable physical activities.

Don’t hold a grudge

Forgiveness is a powerful tool. If you allow anger and other negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you might find yourself swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice. But if you can forgive someone who angered you, you might both learn from the situation. It’s unrealistic to expect everyone to behave exactly as you want at all times.

Identify possible solutions

Instead of focusing on what made you mad, work on resolving the issue at hand. Whatever the problem is, remind yourself that anger won’t fix anything and might only make it worse.
Above all, take every problem to God in prayer. Anger does nothing but destroys. May God help us in Jesus Name.

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From Mimi adeyemi.