How you can rebuild trust in your relationship

Hello good people, I want to talk about trust. Trust is a very broad topic, but it is very essential in relationships and marriage, with trust, there is no relationship or marriage. Now let's see how to rebuild trust issues in your relationships and marriages.

BY APOLOGIZING:

Apology that comes right from your heart is the best. When apologizing to someone you offended, you must show humility, you must throw your pride away, you must not let your ego control you and you must show remorse. Let the person you offended know that you understand the level of hurt he or she is passing through. Let them know the reason you are apologizing, because when apologizing the person you betrayed or offended must see the guilt and shame written all over you. By doing so, the person will forgive you and get back to you.

BY BEING STRAIGHT FORWARD

You know you have broken your partners trust, you betrayed your partner,  you have to come out plain, be straight forward, be transparent. Let the person know that his or her well being is very important to you. Do not forget to admit that you are wrong.  Try to reveal the secret you kept from them.

FORGIVING YOUR SELF

 You have wronged your partner, you have betrayed the trust he or she had for you, and you feel so bad and regret ever doing it. Do not have a hard time forgiving yourself because you betrayed your partner. I know it’s hard, but you have to forgive yourself first, before your partner forgives you. Let’s remember, no one is perfect, so forgive yourself and push forward.

BE TRANSPARENT

We value personal information a lot and that puts some relationship into trouble. What are you hiding from your partner? He or she wants to know where you go and what you do, please allow them. By being transparent, you can build trust, if you like put your calls on speaker so they may listen and know you are not cheating. Removing security locks from your phone will help a lot, he or she will know you have nothing to hide, letting them read your email, text, and  even see your call log. By doing so, the trust will come back.  

ALLOW THEM RIGHT TO EXPRESSION

Expression of anger and strong feelings is natural after being offended or betrayed. Your partner whom you have betrayed will need to unleash his or her expression and thoughts, although you may find it icky and uncongenial, but it is very necessary for them to express themselves in other for them to be calmed. Take note; never try to shut them up while they are expressing themselves, if you do it means you don’t care about their feelings. Let them shout, cry, anyhow they want to do it until they are satisfied.

YOU MUST KEEP YOUR WORD

Trust between two people means you must be calculable and reliable for a very long period of time. You must make a promise to your partner to become the best. It doesn’t really end by apologizing and promising, because it may build a short term trust. When you apologize and promise, make sure you act towards your promises, if you cannot be honest to your partner in future, or you are not able to do all you promised you will do, then you will be waving your partners trust good bye. Try and avoid making the same mistake, if keep all your promises, the trust will be back and you will enjoy your relationship.

YOU REALLY NEED TO BE PATIENT

Rebuilding takes a lot of time, especially when it has to do with the heart. For example, when a house collapse, it takes a lot of time to rebuild, because you will have to clear all the unwanted materials first, make sure the land is clear before you put another foundation, this time around a foundation that will never collapse. So in terms of trust, you have to be patient, allow the person clear the hurt in his or her heart, but you must be persistence in your own effort. Depending on the collapse the person’s heart, rebuilding may take weeks, months, or even years. That is when the person will know if you truly love them. Don’t let them know it is a must that they must trust. One thing you must know is, things may not be the same again after your betrayal, but if you prove that you are a trustworthy person, that trust will surely be resurrected.

CONSIDER THE OFFENDERS REACTION TO THE SITUATION

Are the really sorry because they were caught? Or are they really sorry for hurting you? Are they really ready to do better next time?

If they are not ready to make things right or if they are not ready to show regret, remorse to what they did, then there is no need wasting your time trying to trust them. But if they are ready to make things work, my dear please hurry and accept them back and enjoy your relationship.

LET GO YOUR ANGER

It happened, there is nothing you will do about it, once you let go of your anger, you will feel free and refreshed. Never bring up the topic in future, let the past belong to the past.

ACCLIMATIZE YOUR ANTICIPATION    

It may be hard for you to fit in, no matter what your partner does to make you happy, you may not feel 100% satisfied. But you have to fashion or shape yourself with him or her in other to make him or her happy and to also make yourself happy.

YOU SHOULD RECEIVE AND GIVE LOVE

After everything, you must learn to love your partner no matter the betrayal, and be ready to receive the love the person will give to you, because the love may come in trailer or truck in other to impress you. They will want to express affection, please accept, because the act of true affection is the real thing.

I believe and also hope you will be able to rebuild trust in your relationships and also in your marriages with these above points. Be transparent, be real, protect your relationship and marriage from going down. It’s in your hands handle it with care.

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